Reflections from a Bohm Dialogue on Human, More-than-Human and Artificial Intelligences

In October, 2025, I had the opportunity to participate in a workshop led by the Japanese organisation, Ecological Memes. The workshop centred around a card deck, called Suiten no Kotoba, which offers 27 ‘Seeds of Practical Wisdom Rooted in Nature,’ that have emerged through Ecological Memes’ process of exploration. The accompanying booklet explains that, “Suiten” is a Buddhist word coined by Japanese polymath Minakata Kumagusu. It means a place where a myriad of truths and bonds gather and co-arise dependently. It is this card deck and in particular the ‘invisible violence’ card that inspired me to host a Bohm Dialogue on Human, More-than-Human and Artificial Intelligences, which took place on Saturday 21st February.

 

The Suiten no Kotoba card deck, created by Ecological Memes

 

I am grateful for Newspeak House for generously hosting this dialogue, and for the Newspeak fellows and curious participants that attended. Whilst participation in Bohm dialogues do not require ‘expertise,’ it was certainly valuable to have those working directly with AI contribute to the dialogue. Similarly, those experts  shared, during the dialogue, the value of hearing other perspectives outside of their usual work. ‘Siloed knowledge’ is often cited as a barrier to innovation and change, and Bohm Dialogue allows us to dissolve the boundaries of knowledge and experience, in order for a group to think together and harness collective human intelligence. 

 

The dialogue set-up - a circle of chairs to ensure inclusion and non-hierarchy, and a centrepiece to remind participants that in dialogue we talk to the centre (not directly to individuals).

 

For those not familiar with the Bohm dialogue process there are a few aspects to note:

  • Bohm worked with a ‘no agenda’ approach to dialogue, in that there was never a specified topic or theme, other than the intention to inquire into the nature of human thought and consciousness. In my work with Bohm Dialogue, I have found that it is possible to hold a container of more focused inquiry, whilst still adhering to the principles of the dialogue requiring no outcome or group agreement. To support this, I incorporate ‘framing exercises’ individually, in pairs and small groups. These simple creative exercises are designed to cultivate curiosity and stimulate deeper thinking on the broad themes of the inquiry that can be explored in more depth during the dialogue.

  • Whilst groups benefit from a facilitator to introduce and hold the process, over time, a regular and committed group would not require a facilitator. A key aspect of the dialogue practice is co-responsibility for the group, and the ability for each person to feel enabled to speak freely and authentically, as well as listen deeply, and respectfully to others. In essence, it is the most natural human activity; to gather in a circle and listen, share meaning, and think together. It is perhaps a sign of the fragmentary nature of our communication and relationships that Bohm was so concerned with, that this practice feels uncomfortable, confronting, or of little value to many people. 

  • Participants of Bohm Dialogue often reflect that the experience of the process itself is as valuable as what is shared and emerges during it. This is a different kind of interaction with others than our everyday communication. It invites the intention to slow down, listen deeply, suspend judgement and inquire into the underlying assumptions and biases that form much of our thought. The Bohm dialogue philosophy makes clear that each participant is of equal value, both in their voicing and listening roles. However, what we are ‘hearing’ collectively as a group is subject to the interpretation of each individual. At the end of each dialogue, whilst we have all heard the same words, it is clear that we do not always share the same meaning. 

I speak to these aspects of Bohm Dialogue to outline that the reflections I share below are those that stayed with me after the dialogue, that I had my own starting place which included the design of framing exercises, and that my memory, or interpretation of what was shared may differ from others that attended. As is the nature of Bohm Dialogue, some of the points shared below were comments from one person, some were threads that we returned to and explored together in more depth. I have done my best to group them into themes, and therefore, they are not in the chronological order that they emerged in the dialogue.

What do we consider to be intelligence

  • One participant questioned why we call AI ‘intelligence’? And this raises an important question of whether we have collectively agreed or understood as humans what intelligence is? Bohm described it as, “the deep source of intelligence is the unknown and indefinable totality from which all perception originates,” implying that on one level intelligence could be considered outside of our physical bodies, yet within the fabric of the whole.

  • Another participant drew our attention to the fact that AI is only programmed with what is written online or shared with it. There is a lot of knowledge and wisdom that is not written i.e. Indigenous and community knowledge. This is missing ‘intelligence,’ and speaks to the exclusion of such knowledge and practice from much of science and academia. Not only do we tend to be human-centric, we also tend to be Western, scientific and academic centric in terms of what is considered ‘intelligence.’ 

  • The group also acknowledged that research has shown the bias being programmed into AI, further perpetuating harmful thinking and behaviours such as racism, sexism and discrimination. 

What does it mean to be human?

  • We spoke multiple times about the anthropomorphisation of AI, and that doing so has led some people to believe that it has emotions and genuinely cares about them. As stated by one of the AI developers in the group, who expressed great concern about this, AI is simply a predictive learning model, it is an inert mass of numbers and data until prompted. The one-sided aspects of AI relationships were also noted; it speaks words of encouragement, which at first may seem positive, but human relationships are messy and complicated. All feelings are an expression of life, and we need to be able to navigate and overcome ‘difficult’ emotions and experiences, in order to build emotional intelligence and resilience. If AI removes any need to face our difficult emotions, what will be the impact on our relationships?

  • It is easy to see why many people connect easily to AI. It could be seen as a natural extension of  being made to feel like machines - to show up productive, consistent, efficient, ‘positive’ to have their experience of time reduced into production units. 

  • Another perspective on the anthropomorphisation of AI is that human conceptual thought is deeply metaphorical in nature, so if we don’t make AI in ‘our image’ i.e. anthropomorphise it, then what is our point of reference, is this just human nature? As we reject our more emotional nature, are we moving further towards a human-machine identity?

  • One interesting observation on how humans are different from AI, is that AI cannot hold contradiction, that perhaps this is what makes us uniquely human.

  • Towards the end of the dialogue, some participants raised the question of whether AI would have been able to do what we did together in dialogue. It seemed that the general feeling was no, it could not have followed the flow of meaning, and generated the thinking and insight that emerged. Dialogue is something creative, and just like intelligence, creativity is something that may benefit from further co-inquiry into its true nature. 


Ecological and social impacts and implications of AI

  • Towards the end of the dialogue one participant stated that, “to look at the pros and cons of AI, we need to put the ecological issue to one side.” There was a clear, if uneven divide in the group, between those of us, myself included, that expressed anger towards the lack of concern or consideration of the ecological impacts of using AI, and those that were neutral or indifferent to this. 

  • One participant shared that the climate crisis is real and present for many people and communities around the world. Communities who are experiencing drought and water scarcity, and noise, light and air pollution due to the data centres required to sustain AI, as well as the people working in low paid, poor, often life threatening conditions for the mining of rare earth minerals required for our endless addiction to the latest technological device. There is extensive and ongoing environmental and social injustice woven into the advancements of technology, that perhaps some people see as a ‘price to pay’ and I for one, can’t help feeling enraged by this. I appreciate that the multiple crises we currently face as humanity are simply too much for individuals to cognitively and emotionally manage, and that one coping mechanism is to turn away from the discomfort that arises when being asked to think and feel about these issues. It seems somewhat ironic that it is our phones that provide a window into 24 hour live stream coverage of the suffering of the most vulnerable humans and nature, and yet most of us feel powerless to do anything about it. 


People say technology is the answer, but what is the question?

  • ‘Just because we can, doesn’t mean we should’ was a sentiment shared by one person in relation to the advancement of technology. What is it for, and what is it rooted in - greed and speed. Technology companies and early adopters seem to be in a rush, but where are we trying to get to?

  • AI is just another layer of all the technology we have created before it, when we look at that history, it isn’t surprising that it is having a negative impact.

  • Many people resign themselves to believing that advances in technology are inevitable, instead of asking, ‘do we really need it?’ Is technology really making us happy and how do we measure progress? What would be the priorities for progress if more countries introduced wellbeing indicators to replace GDP, such as the gross national happiness index in Bhutan.

  • One person posed a more sinister side to AI: we are willingly giving AI a lot of personal information; should we be? Are we setting ourselves up for manipulation by large tech companies?

A hopeful future?

  • The more hopeful or pro-AI voices in the group posed philosophical questions such as; will AI be the ‘mirror’ to reflect back to us the flaws of humanity so we can save ourselves?

  • Another reflection was that everything that has been created on earth - human, more-than-human, and machine, has come from Earth - reminding us that there is some comfort to be had when we take a deep time perspective on the evolution and existence of life on earth. 

  • We explored the wide uses of AI, noting that there are of course positive uses of AI e.g. medical research. However, this feels in sharp contrast to the more ‘social media’ use of AI that encourages people to jump on purposeless trends, with no consideration of resources used. How can we encourage responsible use and discernment? 

  • If we can recognise collectively that AI is just a tool, then will we have more control over its use. However, this change in discernable use will only come about if more people are given the time to participate in spaces for reflection and thinking together, a practice that is uncommon in our fast-paced, technologically driven society.

 

A creative lunchtime activity to reconnect participants to one inherent aspect of being human.

 

For my final reflection I return to the Suiten no Kotoba card of Invisible Violence and the Ecological Memes workshop. I picked this card in response to a prompt to choose the card I felt least drawn to, or even repelled by. We were then invited to discuss our cards in small groups. Talking about this card created a surge of energy and emotion that was not present when I was reflecting on cards I felt more resonant with. A valuable insight into the energy or wisdom we might be suppressing by turning away from the things that make us feel uncomfortable, or that we don’t identify strongly with. AI makes me feel uncomfortable for many reasons, and I am grateful that instead of holding that discomfort alone, I was able to bring together a group of humans to co-inquire into AI, to hear perspectives both similar and different to my own, and in some small way, create meaning together. 

The basic idea of this dialogue is to be able to talk while suspending your opinions, holding them in front of you, while neither suppressing them nor insisting upon them. Not trying to convince, but simply to understand. The first thing is that we must perceive all the meanings of everybody together, without having to make any decisions or saying who’s right and who’s wrong. It is more important that we all see the same thing. That will create a new frame of mind in which there is a common consciousness. It is a kind of implicate order, where each one enfolds the whole consciousness. With the common consciousness we then have something new-a new kind of intelligence.
— David Bohm, On Creativity

Values Jam - Gratitude

It was a joy to be invited by Alan Williams to take part in one of his Values Jam sessions

The virtual sessions are a conversation between Alan and his guest, based on a value selected by random from a deck of values cards. The value that presented itself from the deck to guide our conversation was gratitude

We started our conversation reflecting on the meaning of gratitude, and what it might feel, sound and look like. This question immediately drew my mind to the idea of a gratitude practice; simply thinking of three things that we might feel grateful for each day. Research shows that incorporating a gratitude practice into our daily lives can help with reducing depression, stress and anxiety. This is a practice that I myself have drawn real benefit from, in terms of recognising and appreciating the positive aspects of my life, and which without a practice, I may overlook or take for granted. 

Taking time to acknowledge what it is we feel grateful for reminded me of the first ever facilitation exercise I developed. I was researching for my MA and was interested in speaking to people about their values. I quickly discovered that directly asking people what their most important values were, was mostly met with blank faces, and few words. I needed to use my creativity. So I designed a workshop and started by asking people to write two lists: the first: everything they need to survive, and the second: everything they need to thrive. As with any facilitation approach, I informed my workshop participants that there was no right or wrong answer, and that they only had a couple of minutes to write words that came to mind, so as not to overthink it. After people wrote their lists, we shared them with each other. I have repeated this exercise many times, and it always yields rich conversations and reflections. The survive list helps people connect to what they might be taking for granted, acknowledging what sustains them, such as all that nature provides; whereas the thrive list often illuminates values, relationships or creative aspects that really allow us to live our best lives and versions of ourselves. 

The beauty of participating in a facilitated process is that it can create time and space to reflect on and connect to what is important. Of course, there are other ways to slow down and create this time and space for ourselves in our lives, if we do so intentionally. Alan and I both shared that we had taken walks at the weekend, and noticed that the blossom was starting to emerge, and how beautiful it is. As Alan put it, “There is something about slowing down, in order to be able to experience gratitude better.” 

Slowing down is something I firmly believe is needed for us to strengthen our transition to a more regenerative future. Our fast paced, and increasingly distracted lives make it hard to enjoy moments of feeling fully present, embodied and alive to the world around us. For me, there are two important things that influence us and our relationship to slowing down. Firstly, the everyday use of mechanistic language and how it impacts our sense of self. Words like productivity, efficiency, consistency etc can subtly shape our perceptions and expectations of ourselves to have to show up each day the same, as a machine would. Except that we are not machines. As human beings, we are part of nature, and nature exists and evolves in constantly changing cyclical patterns. This leads to the second thing that influences our relationship to slowing down, and that is our relationship to time. Jay Griffiths, in her wonderful book, Pip Pip: A Sideways Look at Time, reminds us that our common understanding of mono, universal, clock time is in actual fact, a construct of patriarchal, linear and colonial thinking. She introduces us to a myriad of other times that are deeply connected to the natural world and our relationship with it: ocean time, moon time, cow time, bee time. When we begin to bring awareness to our relationship with time and mechanistic language, we can start to understand the impact this might be having on our sense and expectations of self, and what we consider to be a ‘good use of time.’ So the first step into really feeling into the value of gratitude could be to slow down. 

 
 

Slowing down allows us to bring awareness to the present moment; a tuning in to what is happening both internally in our bodies and minds, and externally in our environments and in others. By slowing down and tuning in, we might also start to recognise what it is we appreciate - in ourselves, others, or the world around us. Just like Alan and myself both felt appreciation for the beautiful blossom on the trees during our walks. In many facilitation approaches we design processes to help meet three basic universal human needs: to be seen, heard and appreciated. The value of appreciation allows us to recognise and acknowledge the reciprocal nature of our relationships with each other and nature. We may want to share that acknowledgement verbally or with an action. For values are not just something to think about, they are to be felt, lived and acted upon. 

Alan’s final question to me asked what one action was I going to take as a result of our conversation on gratitude. My answer was to relisten to the conversation and take some worm time to digest and process it. Having done that allowed this connective process of values to emerge that I have illustrated in my collage. Our conversation allowed me to further understand that feeling gratitude requires a process of slowing down; appreciating, acknowledging and connecting. Values do not exist in isolation of one another. I am also left with another question from our conversation: how do we sustain values and values-based behaviour? This question has inspired me to return to the series of Values Dialogues that I facilitated for the UK Values Alliance in 2018 and 2019 and look for organisations and communities interested in this powerful process and experience. If you would like to find out more please do get in touch. 

Thank you again to Alan for inviting me to take part in this rich conversation, I am very grateful.
 The full conversation can be watched here.


Alan is Founder and Managing Director of Service Brand Global, co-author of The 31 Practices and a member of the UK Values Alliance Steering Committee.

Emotional sustainability - weaving a picture of potential

Starting with an emotional thread 

If we are to weave a new picture of human potential, what threads will we select and how will we weave them together? If emotional sustainability is one of those human threads, what does it look like? This is what I recently explored in conversation with eco-social innovator Rijul Narwal.


If you prefer to watch or listen, you can find our conversation here.


Rijul and I met through our shared work and interest in emotional sustainability. We began our conversation by sharing how we both came to be interested in emotional sustainability, and immediately found some common threads. We have both experienced periods of particular emotional challenge, involving moving countries. We both completed Masters courses at University of the Arts London. We both wanted to talk to other people during our research about seemingly complex, or less frequently spoken about topics. During my research I was finding it hard to talk to people about their values, whilst Rijul experienced challenges talking to people about their emotions.Overcoming these challenges required us to design creative interventions that helped people create and share their own meaning, through creative processes and conversations.

 
 

Creativity is an essential thread in our picture of human potential. By working with creative facilitation and communication, and a design-thinking approach, Rijul and I were both able to create spaces and processes that allowed people to begin to connect with and understand their emotions, values and actions in new ways. If we are seeking a new picture of human potential, it is of course vital that we create new ways of thinking about and doing things for the picture to emerge.  

The thread of emotion also requires us to examine how we currently talk about emotions, or what we have understood them to be from our culture or society? As Rijul shared during our conversation, she comes from a culture in India where emotions are often seen as weakness. A perspective that feels familiar within most of UK culture as well. Whilst understanding how that perspective has been formed over time in human history was too complex to explore within our conversation, we did discuss the important distinction between emotions and feelings as presented in the work of neurologist of emotions, Antonio Damasio. He defines emotions as a conscious or unconscious physiological response in the body. These responses are fleeting; they do not last for a long time. This physiological sensation could be anything -  a racing heartbeat, a sick feeling in the stomach, an excited tingling sensation, tensing of muscles. These emotional, physiological reactions can be seen as important information signals. Signals from a source of bodily intelligence.  

 
 

The important distinction comes when we look at the difference between emotions, these physiological reactions in our bodies, and feelings. Our feelings are the conscious or unconscious experience of emotional reactions. They last longer, come after emotions, and are more connected to our thoughts. Feelings are much harder to understand because they become so intertwined in our internal systems; in our ability to understand how our past experiences, education, culture, families, etc shape our understanding and perception of ourselves in relation to others and the world around us. 

The first thread of emotional sustainability is the ability to become aware of and understand our own emotions better, consciously recognise how our emotions affect our feelings and in turn help to form the values, beliefs and motivations that help give us strength and security in ourselves. 

Our tip for starting with an emotional check-in

As well as asking someone or a group of people, “how are you feeling?”, try also extending this question to ask them, “if that feeling was a living or non-living entity, what would it be?” This allows people to connect with and express their feelings in different ways that provide more meaning and understanding to themselves and the people they are communicating with. 

Energy in motion - connecting to what is important 

My work with emotional sustainability began with an inquiry into values.  Values are a very strong thread in the new picture of human potential, and something that I continue to weave into my work as a facilitator. I shared with Rijul that I bring values into workshops because I recognise that in spaces where we need to bring people together, values and emotions allow us to understand each other on the level of common humanity. When we are invited to share how we are feeling, and what values are important to us and why, we can start connecting and building trusted relationships because we recognise those things in others in ourselves.

It is clear that Rijul feels similarly; that connecting with emotions can also help us understand and communicate what is important to us. She shared that her emotions give her the passion, energy and enthusiasm to explore her work. Rijul explained how working with emotional sustainability helped her acknowledge her biases and why they are there, and then use them to inform her design approach. I was particularly struck by Rijul’s insight into how emotional sustainability can reduce conflict in groups as this is something I have also witnessed in my own facilitation practice; “If we could practise emotional first aid people wouldn't have as much friction between differences of opinions, often people have aligned values but differences of opinions.” 

Understanding is clearly an important thread in our new picture of human potential. This thread is about how we understand ourselves and others, which is often made possible by sharing our emotions and values, as indicators of what is important to us and why. 

Rijul and I both share a love of etymology, and during our conversation we reflected on the root meaning of the word emotion - a stirring, moving, agitation, energy in motion. It became clear during our conversation that by working with our emotions, we can create motivation, movement and action. Whilst we may have been taught to suppress or turn away from the more difficult emotions, it is only by facing them that we can create the energy to move with them and through them. As Marshall Rosenberg, creator of nonviolent communication said, “all feelings are an expression of life.” We invite all emotions and feelings to be present as threads in our new picture of human potential, as that potential requires all humans to feel fully alive. 

 
 

The second thread of emotional sustainability is to discover our passions and our purpose in order to fulfil our unique potential and contribute it to an interrelated and interdependent global society and natural world. To become active, not passive.

Our tip for reflecting on emotions 

You might be familiar with the phrase “sit with your emotions.” Whilst it is important to acknowledge, examine and make space for emotions and feelings, it is not always necessary to come to stillness in your body. Next time you feel a challenging emotion try going for a walk or dancing at home to let your body help you process that emotion…the mind can’t do it alone! 

Experiential learning and creative reflection

To close our conversation exploring emotional sustainability I asked Rijul to share one thing that might be of value to listeners. She shared that the ability to be able to reflect goes a very long way. For me the ability to reflect requires being able to see all the threads individually - my thoughts, feelings, values, actions - know that they are all connected, and to be able to understand those connections in a way that creates meaning and actionable learning or change. 

 
 

Reflecting allows us to integrate new information and perspectives into our understanding. Reflecting on my conversation with Rijul, I am feeling a renewed sense of focus on why we need to continue to reframe our emotions as sources of intelligence and catalysts for positive and collective action. We are living in increasingly challenging times. As challenging as the world currently is, we can’t turn off our emotions. Emotions are part of what makes us human and alive. And right now we need to be fully alive, to be able to work together and face our shared challenges.

The threads of emotions, feelings, creativity, values, understanding, and reflection are just some of the many threads we need to weave back together for people. We would love to know what threads you would weave into a beautiful new picture of human potential.

The third thread of emotional sustainability is to embrace our creativity and engage in dialogue with others to create shared meaning and positive relationships, that will unite us with equality and give us the optimism, drive and shared innovation needed for us to bring about peace amongst humans and secure the preservation of our precious planet. 


We have collated a selection of resources related to the themes we discussed in this conversation. For any further information or questions related to emotional sustainability please get in touch at jessica@creatingmeaning.club

Jessica’s work on emotional sustainability 

Rijul’s work on emotional sustainability

Practical philosophy course

To find out more about values and why they matter

To learn more about how infinite growth and measuring progress by GDP doesn't work

To connect with your feelings and needs and learn more about Nonviolent communication  

and language of feelings and needs

To use an empathy map as a tool for insights 

For a creative idea for understanding systems thinking

To explore the inner development goals framework

To learn more about creative education Masters programmes at UAL

Deep Democracy, Surfacing What Is Not Being Said

Expressions of power-over - The Censor

Have you ever been in a personal or work situation where the conversation left you feeling bored, numb or dull? Or perhaps there was a time when you felt blamed, shamed or isolated, even made to feel like the scapegoat. These feelings often arise in situations and exchanges when we are unable to say what we really think and feel: when we are being censored by others, or censoring ourselves. In contrast, bring to mind a conversation that felt meaningful and open. How did you feel after? Energised, inspired, moved? When we can use our voice, and connect with others to share meaning, it can spark new ideas and fresh thinking, and help build trusted relationships.

 

The Censor is one of Starhawk’s ‘five ‘entities of control’ expressed in a power-over paradigm

 

Return for a moment, to those dull feelings, perhaps in a meeting, or social occasion. Reflect on what isn’t being said, on what lies in the undercurrents of the group dynamic. There are many reasons why we might feel we cannot speak freely in a situation: dominance of other voices; fear of judgement, conflict or repercussions; feeling that what we have to say will be perceived as unimportant, or inarticulate; concern for the feelings of others; lack of accommodation for our needs or styles of communicating; or physical embarrassment and nervousness. Of course, not all these reasons, or others not mentioned, are related to a feeling of censorship. In other instances the differences in use of language, personal  experience, cultural context etc may feel too vast a divide to bridge. In these instances we have to ask ourselves what is the desired or necessary connection and understanding, and what value will that bring to those involved. 

We can also ask the question, what is the intended outcome of censorship? It is important to become aware of the times when we are censoring ourselves or being directly or indirectly censored by others, as censorship is one expression of a power-over paradigm. Power dynamics are always at play, and frequently govern how we communicate and relate to each other, and in turn what is perceived to be of importance and priority by individuals or groups. We see daily the consequences of power and decision making that serves only a few, already privileged people. In situations that still uphold a hierarchical structure of leadership, it may be difficult to affect positive change that is equitable and fair. Hope lies with leaders that want to build more inclusive and collaborative teams, organisations and societies; and in raising awareness of tools and approaches that can support this shift in how we communicate and relate to each other.

Deep Democracy - lowering the waterline 

Deep Democracy is one such communication approach that can support this shift in how we communicate. Deep Democracy is a facilitation, decision making, conflict resolution and inclusive leadership methodology, developed by psychologists Myrna & Greg Lewis and inspired by Arnold Mindell's Process Orientated Psychology.

 
 

At the heart of Deep Democracy is the metaphor of the iceberg. The process works to lower the water line: to surface more of what is in the unconscious of the group, and make it conscious and known to everyone. This lowering of the water line is the aim of any facilitated communication method. 

Common threads in facilitated communication methods are

  • Be inclusive of all voices

  • Acknowledge and welcome thoughts and feelings 

  • Redistribute power 

  • Harness the collective intelligence of the group 

We can see these threads in the 4 steps of the Deep Democracy approach: 

  1. Gain all the views

  2. Make it safe to say ‘no’ or the alternative view

  3. Spread the no

  4. Vote, and incorporate the wisdom of the minority by asking them what they need to come along with the vote.

What we might call the USP of Deep Democracy is a safe yet courageous process for first uncovering, and then exploring any polarities that surface, if the minority refuses to come along with the vote. Moving to a ‘debate’ invites participants to express statements from the perspective of both polarities, without directing these at any particular person in the group. Expressing statements from both sides allows the group to explore both perspectives, and in the reflection after, to surface any insights that may inform or transform decision making. 

The uncovering of group insights in the Deep Democracy process is also a primary feature of the Bohm Dialogue process. David Bohm described insights as having, “some universal sort of significance.” and stated that in the primary act of insight, “we see…a whole range of differences, similarities, connections, disconnections, totalities of universal and particular ratio or proportion..” 

 
 

Communication challenges - behaviours to look out for  

Uncovering insights may be at the more elusive end of these communication practices and processes. As a starting place, Deep Democracy also offers powerful diagnostic tools to assess the current communication challenges within groups. 

Firstly, the resistance line. Having personally experienced and lived the behaviours of the resistance line in a previous organisation, this concept immediately resonated. We have all felt, to varying degrees, a resistance to change. Any change management professional will tell you that change cannot be done to people, it needs to be done with people. If an individual, team, or group of people are going through a period of imposed or unavoidable change, here is some behaviour to look out for:

  • Jokes / sarcasm

  • Excuses

  • Gossip

  • Disruption 

  • Communication breakdown 

  • Strike

  • War / separation 

 
 

Once we become aware of these behaviours we have the choice to intervene, understand and manage them, and of course integrate the wisdom that comes from understanding the resistance.

Similarly to the the resistance line, we can look out for the six communication vices outlined in Deep Democracy:

  1. Not being present - we are all guilty of this, particularly in virtual meetings. Whilst the ability to be present can be impacted by factors such as stress, tiredness, physical environment etc, it is important to have the intention to be fully present as this demonstrates respect for others, and a willingness to be open and engage in the process at hand. 

  2. Interrupting - whilst interruption can sometimes be associated with excitement of being involved in the conversation and wanting to get your point across, it is indicative of an environment that does not provide adequate time or processes to explore the topics or issues in the depth required. It can of course have more malicious intent, when one person wants to demonstrate power by actively shutting down someone else and disregarding their contribution. 

  3. Radio broadcasting - we’ve all got that colleague, friend or relative who blurts out a random comment or tries to start a new story in the middle of a completely different topic of conversation. This one requires someone to keep the conversation on track until it is time to move on. Staying with the flow of the conversation can help maintain connection in the group. 

  4. Indirect speaking - we can recognise this when someone is not speaking from their own personal experience and point of view; uses vague and general language; or speaks on behalf of someone else. Depending on the power dynamics in the room, this person may be too afraid to say how they really feel or think, or they may be actively creating confusion and avoiding any sense of accountability. 

  5. Sliding not deciding - similar to radio broadcasting, this is when a group changes or moves on to a new topic without resolving the current one. 

  6. Questioning - being able to ask questions is an important part of group processes, whether it is for clarification or inquiry purposes. However, there are times when people hide their views in the form of a question.

Reclaiming power from the censor - finding your voice

The question of safety was asked by a member of our group on day one of the Deep Democracy training. Agreeing on safety, acknowledging individual experience and being aware of power within the group were threads we explored throughout our time together. In the final day of the three day training we explored both perspectives of the question, “Deep Democracy is about shifting power and allowing for each voice to be heard.”

It was a rich sharing, with many nuanced perspectives. A reminder that whilst the group shares an experience, within that, individual experiences can vary greatly. Whilst facilitation processes actively centre inclusion and participation, at some point the responsibility of the facilitator ends, and the responsibility of the individual within the group, to find and use their voice, begins. Finding our voice is not an immediate process. It takes time; requires us to get out of our comfort zones; be curious about ourselves and courageous with others. All this cannot happen when we are alone. Being in a group that brings compassion, vulnerability and patience to a process of communication, is a powerful way to connect with and find our authentic voice. And Deep Democracy is one tool to support us getting there.

 

Finding a voice is the antidote to the Censor, as described in Starhawk’s book, Truth or Dare

 

A huge thank you to Payam Yuce Isik of Tribe for leading this training with grace and wisdom. In particular your masterclass in listening and reflecting the feelings and thoughts of the group. And thank you to the other participants for sharing openly and courageously throughout our three days together.